A Leap of Friendship Faith

I heard the other day that one way to get people to trust you is by asking them to do you a favour.

It could be a simple task or something more significant, but an action which says they can be there for you. Leaps of faith are undoubtedly a big part of life, and I like the idea of asking someone to be yours. In the same way, most friendships are usually cemented by both parties trusting the other with bits of their life. From small admissions to big secrets (depending on the friend in question), these shared symbols mark the importance of a 2-way street.

My favourite people are open people, for those which it is definitely a case of what you see is what you get. I can’t be bothered with someone who is kind to you one day and bitchy the next. This is of course very different to being forced to plaster a smile on when you feel dreadful, or make conversation when you need space. After all, you can’t be all things to all people.

Just to be clear, I’m not talking imparting your life story on a complete stranger here. More, the reality of warming to those people who readily admit that they don’t actually feel as confident as they look. Or, that they too have forced fish fingers into their unsuspecting offspring for tea a grand total of three nights running.

So in the spirit of sharing and making the leap of friendship faith, here are a few of my truths-

  • I sometimes do the school run with my pyjama top shoved under whichever coat I grabbed on the way out the door.
  • Since having kids I have a very low emotional threshold for films, books and TV. Seriously, I cry at Masterchef and am struggling to move past gentle Maeve Binchy novels.
  • Some days I want to retreat into my shell and I work hard to force myself out of my naturally shy comfort zone. This can involve inappropriate jokes and a lot of lipstick.
  • Every day I could stuff my face with chocolate 24/7.

Come on then, what are yours?


  1. Honest Mum October 13, 2015 / 1:51 pm

    Oh I love this so much and it’s like you read my mind because I was telling Peter last night that I do find it hard to trust people and let them in, I think it’s a backlash to literally trusting everyone that comes my way and getting hurt. I won’t let it stop me assuming the best in others but I want to be a little more careful and guarded. You know I loved you the minute we met. Yes to all those things and here are mine-I spend usually most days in my nightie until at least 1pm and hide halfway behind the door when the postman knocks. I am the biggest scaredy cat you ever did meet, I can just about watch the Simpsons Halloween Special. Sometimes I shout at the kids too much then instantly regret it. I must try not to be so Greek! I often wish I had longer to proof read my posts, I’m always in such a rush and return chastising myself for not editing them more. Big love xx

    • mummymode October 13, 2015 / 5:25 pm

      We are so similar! And I am a big scaredy cat too- we can huddle up together through scary situations my lovely. I totally agree, and self preservation is so important too. It’s hard to trust when people take advantage of that and you are naturally such a positive person xxxx

  2. Katie / Pouting In Heels October 14, 2015 / 10:31 am

    Ah so true! Friendship is all about being open and true with one another. I’ve never found it hard to trust, my problem with trust is more that I trust the wrong kind of people. Or certainly have in the past. Ok… so some truths about me. I always worry about my ‘legacy’. I’m always thinking about how I can improve my life rather than appreciate what I have in the moment. I often go to bed with my make up on because I’m too shattered to take it off (gross I know!) Oh and I love a bit of trash TV like Jeremy Kyle 😉 x

    • mummymode October 20, 2015 / 10:14 am

      I am with you on trusting the wrong people- it is a hard balance to strike! I love your little secrets and totally identify with the legacy one in partic, thanks so much for sharing hun xxx

  3. Sally October 22, 2015 / 5:59 pm

    This is a great idea!! The best friends are the ones who stick around after you’ve told them all your home truths.
    My guilty pleasure is watching This Morning on catch up on a Saturday morning… Every Saturday morning!
    I second guess everything I do and wish I was more decisive and strong willed. Or that I could at least fake it till I make it!
    I’m crap at holding my own in arguments, can’t handle the confrontation at all xxxxxxx

    • mummymode January 27, 2016 / 11:01 am

      This is so true about home truths. Love your guilty pleasure, I’m right with you on that one. Hear’s to knowing our limits and faking until we make it! xxxxx

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