I heard the other day that one way to get people to trust you is by asking them to do you a favour.
It could be a simple task or something more significant, but an action which says they can be there for you. Leaps of faith are undoubtedly a big part of life, and I like the idea of asking someone to be yours. In the same way, most friendships are usually cemented by both parties trusting the other with bits of their life. From small admissions to big secrets (depending on the friend in question), these shared symbols mark the importance of a 2-way street.
My favourite people are open people, for those which it is definitely a case of what you see is what you get. I can’t be bothered with someone who is kind to you one day and bitchy the next. This is of course very different to being forced to plaster a smile on when you feel dreadful, or make conversation when you need space. After all, you can’t be all things to all people.
Just to be clear, I’m not talking imparting your life story on a complete stranger here. More, the reality of warming to those people who readily admit that they don’t actually feel as confident as they look. Or, that they too have forced fish fingers into their unsuspecting offspring for tea a grand total of three nights running.
So in the spirit of sharing and making the leap of friendship faith, here are a few of my truths-
- I sometimes do the school run with my pyjama top shoved under whichever coat I grabbed on the way out the door.
- Since having kids I have a very low emotional threshold for films, books and TV. Seriously, I cry at Masterchef and am struggling to move past gentle Maeve Binchy novels.
- Some days I want to retreat into my shell and I work hard to force myself out of my naturally shy comfort zone. This can involve inappropriate jokes and a lot of lipstick.
- Every day I could stuff my face with chocolate 24/7.
Come on then, what are yours?