Stop! Mama Time


One of my biggest flaws is a failure to stop. I don’t stop to give myself credit for something I’ve achieved, stop to sit down when there’s some free time or even stop to stuff my face with chocolate plus coffee and a magazine sans children.

Since becoming a mum, I, like all mothers I know, can often fail to put my own needs first even when there’s a chance to. Yeah there’s a pile of washing to sort, or another school form to fill in, but the indulgence of 5 minutes peace (who else loved that book as a child?) is now starting to become my priority. Gradually and forcefully, a conscious effort has to be made to regain stopping time.

Because I can’t stop, a minute of watching TV or catching up on Vogue can be blighted by my need to do something else at the same time. Why am I flicking through Twitter or catching up on emails when I need to just BE? Turning my phone off at its bedtime helps and I wrote about this recently in my 3 Top Happiness Tips. But, there’s definitely still room for improvement in the technology time out department.

Equally, as my sister pointed out yesterday- I’m not allowing myself the opportunity to celebrate stuff I’ve accomplished. I bet this isn’t just me and that we all do this.There’s always talk about taking a moment to be grateful for our life etc etc, but I’m thinking we need to be grateful for ourselves. Nailing a big meeting, getting the kids out the door on time, absolutely killing it with the winged eyeliner… all these things are worthy of a stop and give ourselves credit moment.

So tonight, as it’s Friday night, I’m stopping to sit down, patting myself on the back for not forgetting T’s packed lunch this morning¬†and savouring a big fat glass of Rioja. And I’m urging you to do the very same.


  1. Honest Mum January 22, 2016 / 11:47 am

    LOVE this, so true, you and I are basically the same person, I am a multi-tasking mutha and find it hard to just do one thing at a time, without thinking about ticking the next point off on the to-do list. Time to CHILL OUT! Thanks for the reminder beautiful x

    • mummymode January 22, 2016 / 11:50 am

      haha we are like little twinnies!! It’s the downside to being so excellent at multi-tasking- we will conquer it between us one day! xxx

  2. aspiringyummymummy January 25, 2016 / 3:31 pm

    Totally agree with this blog post! I’m so bad for stopping and giving myself a break, there’s always some washing to be done or the shower needs cleaning! X

    • mummymode January 26, 2016 / 9:18 am

      Ahh so pleased it resonates with you! There always is, but we need to give ourselves a break, we really do xxx

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